A Bookish Conversation with EJ Apicello
Welcome to EJ’s real, crazy, emotional, probably too honest journey. She is an everyday girl in this everyday world trying to keep her head above water. Within the pages of this book you will learn about the things that have broken EJ down and the steps she is taking to build back up. You will see, that this story is written in a unique, general, conversational voice, which was her choice. She wants you to be able to picture yourself in her shoes, relate her trials and tribulations to yours and see that you too can find your happiness. Even if you don’t realize this yet, every single one of us possesses things inside of ourselves that we didn’t know were there. It took EJ’s life taking a crazy right turn and dumping her at the lowest possible point before she could see the strength within herself. We are not defined by what we do, we are defined by the choices we make. EJ decided when she put pen to paper that she wanted her choices to start defining her as strong, confident, secure and above all else, happy. So, who am EJ? How about who she was – a self-loathing shell who put everyone else’s happiness before her own. Herein lies a story about finding that happiness and all of the ups and downs along the way. See who EJ was and who she is trying to become and maybe, somewhere in there, you will find out a little about yourself too.
Her latest book is the self-help, Your Crossroads. Your Choice.
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About the Book:
Title: YOUR CROSSROADS. YOUR CHOICE.
Author: EJ Apicello
Publisher: Page Publishing
Welcome to my diary, my journey, as I tripped and crawled through the darkest time in my life- when I witnessed people that I held incredibly close to me shatter my very existence with their words and actions. The things within this book spine are extremely raw and exceptionally real. You and I are going to get very close, the details in this book, although oddly general, are incredibly specific. Yes, I realize what I just said and as you read my words you will see what I mean. As you silently gasp and mentally bitch slap me, please be kind because my story is just that – my story. It is not any more or less special than yours. In fact the only difference between our stories are the choices we made at each of the crossroads in our lives. For most of my life the choices I made were not based on my happiness but on everyone else’s. This book describes what I have experienced in my journey to finding my happiness and hopefully never letting it go. Sadly, it took me thirty six years to find the strength I need to detoxify my life and self-view and find someone who is worthy of my awesomeness. Thirty six years to shatter the negative foundation I had built shatter the ultimate representative I created to hide behind and begin the process of building a new foundation. Only this foundation will be built on strength, confidence and above all, happiness. So take a minute or thirty and sit with my story for a while. You never know what you might find out.
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Q: Thank you so much for this interview, EJ! Can you tell us where you are from?
I am from upstate New York.
Q: How did you come up with your title?
I had another much wordier version but one night just as I was falling asleep I came up with “Your crossroads. Your choice.” It has since lead to the design of a logo!
Q: They say you can judge a book by its cover. Can you tell us a little about your cover and who designed it?
My cover was designed by the team at Page Publishing. I told them I wanted to have an image of a woman standing at a crossroads. I also wanted them to incorporate a memory I had where I was driving through Vermont right as the sky was bleeding from day into night and I happened to be driving right down the middle of it. I wanted the day/night image to pay homage to that memory and for my readers to realize that every choice has an opposite choice.
Q: Can you tell us something about your book that would make me run out and buy it?
I give you the secret to true happiness! In the world we live in, isn’t that almost as rare as gold?
Q: Are there any messages in this book that you want the reader to know about?
I want my readers to know that they always have a choice. When they are faced with decisions, no matter how big or small, make choices that are based on what you believe in, what makes you happy and be confident with those choices. Do not let your inner resistance or any outer influences keep you from finding your happiness, being happy with your true self.
Q: What was your most favorite chapter to write and why?
I think the chapter titled “Events Leading Up To My Oh Shit! Moment” because it was such a cleansing experience. I held on to the dirty secret that I never really loved my husband and married him for the wrong reasons for so long. Now it was out in the universe and coming out of that shadow was life changing for me.
Q: Why did you feel you had to write this book?
Honestly, I started writing it because the things that were happening in my life did not seem real to me. My husband and I agreed to an open marriage – so out of left field! I figured if I wrote it down then it had to have happened. Then I fleshed out an outline and the words began to pour out of me.
Q: Now, some fun questions – What deep dark secret would you like to share with us?
Ha! Well, I have had a stuffed stegosaurus since I was 5 years old, he was a surprise Christmas present. I still cuddle with him at night – and I am 37. Oh and I am OBSESSED with David Duchovny. He is so yummy.
Q: If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
I would go to South America and get lost in some remote village. I would build a reputation of being the talented (but kooky) storyteller that all the children flock to after school gets out.
Q: Are you a morning person or a night person?
I am a total morning person. My favorite past time is putting a movie on and immediately falling asleep on the couch!
Q: Are there any members in your family who also like to write?
My brother is an amazing musician and talented songwriter. My sister is a powerful activist and nonfiction writer. My 5 year old daughter loves to write books too.
Q: As a child, were you a dreamer?
Absolutely. I would always be wishing my life ahead to some occasion or envisioning how I hoped things would turn out for me as an adult.
Q: Last but not least, the magic genie has granted you one wish. What would that be?
World peace. No wait, a thousand more wishes. No wait, a billion dollars. No…eternal life? Oh wait, I have it – the ability to teleport to any time or place!
Q: Thank you so much for this interview! Do you have any final words?
I hope you enjoy my story! I would love to hear from you so feel free to visit my website and say hi! www.ejapicello.com